Jepara, October 1903
Modertje, my moedertje,say something to me, I am so utterly, utterly unhappy. Physically, spiritually broken, I have energy no more. For days already it is as if there is a fire in my head, as my heart is a burning bullet. I am assumed to be still alive, Is this living ? There are worse things then death. And when I am dead, what will that have achieved ? Nothing ! other than that I have obstructed some people, tripped them up in their egotism. …Oh my poor, poor dreams, my poor sisters.
The house is as though deserted, the bird no longer chrips, it is lying with broken wing, a broken heart, oh and a heart full of terrible, evil thoughts.
Do you despise me,yes ? -it is hard,but still bearable, but that I cannot respect myself, that I cannot bear.
My God have mercy, show me the way !
So wrote Raden Ajeng Kartini two month prior her wedding with the regent of Rembang which almost 30 years older than her. More than 100 letter which Kartini wrote to her mentor, Rosa Abendanon, a wife of the director of education of the Dutch East Indies between 1900 – 1904. In these letter she expressed her belief in her right to the freedom of personal self determination as a woman and a javanesse. She describes her quest for further education and for release from restrictions traditional life imposed on woman, especially the tyranny of an arranged polygamous marriage. But the decision has been made by his father, and she never lived to see that freedom.
I have read some people questioning her struggle against the feodalism is just a peanut compare to other women’s national hero such as Cut Nyak Dhien or even Dewi Sartika. Those two mentioned national heroes were imprisoned by dutch colonialism. And Kartini still locked up by her marriage . Im just wondering what would be in her mind after watching TV show called Infotainment. Is she happy to see how easily a woman now asking for a life separation or even she becomes more depressed in understanding how Teh Ninih way’s of life. She must be very familiar with her personal struggle, that tragically is a reavealing picture of Indonesian culture and society as she quoted ‘ the freeing of women is inevitable, it will come, only we cannot hasten its coming. The freedom of women will be the fruit of our suffering and pain ‘. Maybe she just doesn’t care after having a chit chat with Tamara Blezinsky. Who knows ?
45 Comments
NiLA Obsidian
April 23, 2007 at 8:36 amlain jaman lain pemikiran…..
intisari pemikiran kartini juga harus banyak di improve utk jaman kekinian….
kadang penerapannya juga udah ngasal….
masih bnyk yg memperingati hari kartini dengan menyuruh pake kebaya ke kantor ato kerja di pom bensin (kyk cerita koeniel-http://my-musings.blogdrive.com)
duh….maksudnya dah ga jelas gitu ya?
mei
April 23, 2007 at 12:30 pmhihi, yang chit chat with tamara…alah mas iman ki ono2 wae, enten2 mawon alias..hm bahasa inggrise opo yo..hihi, mboh!!!
selamat hari kartini, say no to poligami!!!
ilmaffectional
April 23, 2007 at 1:04 pmIbu kita Kartini pasti bangga sekaligus menangis liat kartini2 masa kini..
Kayaknya harus ada Bapak kita Kartono yg bisa bikin pria2 ‘melek’ soal perasaan para kartini 😛
dewi pras
April 23, 2007 at 3:20 pmkalo diliat2 wanita sekarang emang harga dirinya makin tinggi.. Dengan mengatasnamakan emansipasi wanita yang di cetuskan RA Kartini.. Mereka ngerasa bisa hidup tanpa bantuan laki2.. jadi kadang mending cerai daripada di poligami..
ajitekom a.k.a kodokijo
April 23, 2007 at 5:40 pmwaduh sampai ke masalah poligami nih 🙂 btw semakin tinggi emansipasi dan tingkat kecerdasan kita, terkadang hal yg dibolehkan menjadi area abu-abu, contoh kasus poligami, yg jelas2 tidak dilarang, tapi kenyataannya menjadi ‘terlarang’ akibat dampak opini yg terbentuk di masyarakat kita. Yang boleh sudah pasti tetap dibolehkan (dgn syarat tertentu) dan yg dilarang pastilah dari awal sudah ada vonis haram. Saya merasa miris dgn pola pikir dan pandangan yg memutarbalikkan hukum Tuhan.
– Ajie-
# sikapi perbedaan dgn damai#
Nico Wijaya
April 23, 2007 at 10:37 pmwaduhhh berat mas nih postingannya..pake dua kali mikir…hehe..
Innuendo
April 23, 2007 at 11:00 pmkalo ingin disamakan, selalu mengatasnamakan : emansipasi.
tapi pas giliran bayar membayar : elo khan laki2x…
eh itu temanku sih kekkekek
DenaDena
April 24, 2007 at 7:17 amwalah ra ngerti boso enggres. Katro!!! he..he..
escoret
April 24, 2007 at 8:12 amwah,boso inglis trs….mumet mbacanya…hehhehe…
selamotttt hr kartini aja….
Laksono
April 24, 2007 at 8:19 ammet hari kartini aja deh saya baru inget malah
Pinkina
April 24, 2007 at 8:27 amaku ra ngerti boso linggis, versi indonesia nya please *halahh
venus
April 24, 2007 at 8:49 amselamat hari kartini. tapi, mas…banyak juga yg mergukan keaslian surat2 beliau lho…
kenny
April 25, 2007 at 11:31 amlah itu akibat dari emansipasi…pemberontakan utk tidak dipoligami, hidup tamara…eh salah….Kartini ding.
Kana Haya
April 25, 2007 at 2:35 pmada yang nanya, penting banget yah memperingati hari kartini? kartini toh tidak memperjuangkan hak kaum perempuan secara general. well, tetapi mungkin salah satu alasan adanya hari kartini adalah untuk mengingatkan kartono2 yang lupa bahwa kartini2 juga memiliki hak yang sama untuk hidup nyaman dan sejahtera dengan jalan yang telah dipilihnya
err, sory, but I dont see any relation between poligamy and women’s emansipation =9
muthe
April 25, 2007 at 4:07 pmsetuju ama kana haya. nggak ada hubungannya antara poligami sama emansipasi wanita. lagian..saya nggak menjunjung emansipasi tuh. kalo emang emansipasi..perempuan sono pada jadi kuli bangunan, mau nggak?!! sana ngangkut karung beras. yang bener tuh..lakukanlah apa yang memang seharusnya dilakukan perempuan, laki2 juga sama. Pkoknya, lakukan sesuai dengan Kodrat dari Tuhan. sok2 mau emansipasi, disuruh ngangkut karung beras nggak mau!!
ibunyaima
April 25, 2007 at 5:53 pm“Is she happy to see how easily a woman now asking for a life separation or even she becomes more depressed in understanding how Teh Ninih way’s of life”
I guess it depends on how she formulated the concept of emancipation. If she defined it to make the female the master of their own life – who can choose what they want – therefore she would have no disappointment against Tamara’s and Teh Ninih’s decision.
But if she had a different concept.. well… 😉
*I guess we all forgot to ask her that ;)*
Evy
April 26, 2007 at 11:18 amIn fact the woman in Indonesia so lucky, they can go everywhere and they can do everything they like even they are not working,they have servant,very big different with your ages madam Kartini
crushdew
April 26, 2007 at 3:22 pmbagaimana dengan Marsinah?
Endang
April 27, 2007 at 7:16 amsayang Ibu Kartini tidak hidup cukup lama untuk bisa menjelaskan apa yg beliau maksudkan dgn emansipasi. krn skrg penafsirannya jadi begitu beragam dan cenderung digunakan untuk pembenaran dari tindakan yg kontroversial….*halah…kepanjangaaan…*
wkurniawan
April 27, 2007 at 9:32 amSuatu saat, di jaman ditemukannya mesin waktu, maka kru infotainment akan pergi ke masa lampau, mewawancara Kartini… *halah ngelamun*
wieda
April 27, 2007 at 11:01 pmhe he he..jaman kartini kan wanita emang ga ada yg sekolah..sekarang boleh adu cerdas2 an ama co…kekeke…makanya makin berkembang cara berfikir dan gaya hidupnya kepercayaan diri jadi mantab…..halah..jadi do not mess with a woman…..lareeeee
meitymutiara
April 28, 2007 at 4:32 pmPak, I agree with her greatest idea but disagree with poligamy.
Domba Garut!
April 28, 2007 at 5:30 pmTerlepas dari emansipasi dan pemberdayaan gender, kadang kita harus ingat bahwa masing2 punya peran dan kodratnya masing-masing.. semoga nggak lupa akan yang satu itu.. namun demikian seiring perkembangan jaman dan pergeseran nilai plus fenomena akhir zaman, things are very much mixed-up and made to look upside-down 😀
Nice posting indeed.. it surely made me think of my idung pesek a lot more often today :p
crushdew
April 28, 2007 at 7:00 pmbagaimana dnegan marsinah?
Septian
April 28, 2007 at 9:28 pmitu bener2 foto ibu kartini bukan ya ?
dari bahasa Inggris ibu kartini, terlihat begitu kesedihan yang mendalam, sumbernya dari mana Bung ?
Sam
April 28, 2007 at 11:33 pmMakasih mas dah kinjung balik ke samlens. Iya pingin khursus selama ini hanya insting dan otodidak aja gak ada basic. yang setidaknya tahu tekniknya 🙂 secara benar.
Blognya ok pemikirannya matang. cocok buat perenungan
Keke Rachmad
May 4, 2007 at 2:59 amItu kayaknya teks bahasa belanda yang di- Inggrisin ya, mas?
elly.s
May 4, 2007 at 9:52 amdisini aku rindu lomba kebaya n lomba masak nasi goreng…
ario dipoyono
May 4, 2007 at 5:00 pmSelamat hari Kartini bagi yang merayakan (khusus ibu2 kale..)
rievees
May 5, 2007 at 10:20 pmSetuju dgn Domba Garut… Masing2 harus tetep inget sama peran & kodratnya… Kalo itu dilupakan, yang ada malah salah kaprah ga keruan dech…
N’ say no to polygami =))
DEWI'S GELIAT PENA
August 15, 2007 at 4:13 pmMother is also modern emansipation, Mother is the hero without reward expectation
lea85
April 23, 2008 at 1:03 pmnew comment from Lea85 :
in my mind, Kartini is representative from all of women struggle. But not only kartini, many women in Indonesia with her lines, carry out to stop violent again women. So give appreciation for women fighter.
stop violent again women, stop KDRT……………………..!
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April 18, 2013 at 11:53 amKartini itu istri kedua, dia dipoligami oleh suaminya. Jadi kalau mau cari kebenaran bukan dari buku sekolah. Sangat bias disitu, sampai teriak anti-poligami, padahal tokohnya ya poligami.
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